very happy about being with family soon. But I know others whose holidays are being interrupted, perhaps severely limited because of losses and worries.
A friend and co-worker lost her father this a.m. It was not sudden; he'd been ill for several weeks and had health problems for a few years. But I don't know if we're ever ready to lose someone we love like a parent. It's never a good time for a family death, but Christmas sure seems like the worst time.
I know those feelings of loss, pain, sorrow, the knowledge that your world just changed drastically and will never again be as it was. There's a fear associated with that, not unlike being in a car as an accident begins to occur. You want to stop it, to stop the anxiety, prevent the hurt; but all you can do is ride it out.
I pray for her peace and comfort at a terrible time; nothing we can say or do will fix any of it. Maybe knowing others do care what she's going through, that others understand her loss, will help.
A friend told me yesterday that a health problem she had previously has returned. It's serious, or can be, and will require treatment to overcome. She's worried, of course, but seemed resigned to what would happen. That's brave of her. She'd be justified in crying, screaming, fighting. I hope she'll put her fight into overcoming the problems.
She's important to me. She's important to her husband. I hope people who love her and who will cheer her on will lighten her burden somewhat, encourage her in her efforts to get healthy again.
These are the times you wish you had some magic, that you could say an incantation and relieve the fear and pain. OR if you had a lot of money and could pay for a solution . . .
All we can do is tell someone we love them and stand with them if they need us. It seems inadequate at best; maybe that effort will help.
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